I got a question recently on the Story form asking “how do I find Mr Right?” I think that’s a common question that many men and women have, so I thought I’d reprint my answer here. I’d love to hear from you, so please comment on this post if you have something to say about it.
Here’s what I said:
Quit trying! If you’re “looking” for Mr Right, you’ll be coming from
a place of neediness, and you’ll be attracting men looking for
needy women. That’s not Mr Right, for sure!
Be sure that you fully love and appreciate yourself. If your self
esteem is not strong, then see the first paragraph again. Be
confident in yourself and comfortable not being in a relationship.
Fill your life with what you love. Do a job you love, volunteer where
you can serve, take play time doing what’s fun for you. Hang out
with good friends who are happy and loving life too.
When you’re a happy, involved, serving and giving person, loving
yourself and life to the fullest, you become Ms Right. And at a time
when you least expect it, Mr Right will find you.
PS – Any other plan will get you Mr Wrong. Trust me on that.
I believe that this process will work for men as well as women. I firmly believe that we have the best chance of finding compatible partners if we’re active and doing what we love. After all, compatible people will be doing what they love and if it’s the same as ours, well then, there you are!
The worst advice anyone can give you is to tell you “where the men (or women) are” unless all you want to do is hook up for the weekend.
